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Tuesday, February 9th 2010

8:58 PM

Dating vs. courtship (My thoughts)

I've heard them all, "Courtship is so old school!" "Dating is normal, everyone does it!" "There is nothing wrong with dating! Courtship is just stupid!"

My thoughts are that courtship is the way to go.

Sometimes, on a date, things can get carried away, one thing leads to the next and BOOM, something has just happened that shouldn’t have and things seem to start falling apart.

Courtship may be old fashioned, but ALOT less people were getting pregnant at a young age or getting divorced or having their heart broken over and over again back then when courtship was the only option.

I'm not saying dating is evil or anything, I'm simply sharing my thoughts on the two subjects.

With courtship, you and the person you are courting, spend time together, but not alone.

You spend the time with your family or their family, doing things together.

Some people think that would be irritating, having your little siblings tagging along with you or having your parents watching your every move, but it's not as drastic as that.

Courtship is merely a way to get to know the other person, without getting too serious and ending up doing something you may regret later.

You may not get to be alone with this person, but you also get to see them for who they are.

I've promised myself, my parents and God, that I will save my first kiss for my wedding day, and I've promised this for several reasons;

1: A kiss may start out innocently, but it could lead to bigger things.

2: I want my first kiss, to be my last kiss, and I want to know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that the person I share that first kiss with, is the person I am meant to be with.

Some people think I'm crazy, others think I'm smart, either way, that's the decision I've made and I plan on standing by it.

Some people may also think that Courtship is my parents idea, let me tell you, it's not.

Well it is, but I agree with them one hounded percent!

The decision between dating and courtship is a personal one.

Again, this is not how EVERYONE may think of dating, I am simply sharing MY opinions and if you don’t agree with me, then that's your opinion and I'm not trying to change that.

I wear a purity ring 24/7 as well, promising God that I am saving myself for the right person.

Personally, I think purity rings are a big deal and something that should be taken seriously if anyone ever decides to wear one.

I wear my purity ring with pride and I am proud to say that I will wear it till God sends the right guy along for me!

Colossians 3:14

"And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."

4 Comment(s).

Posted by Nikki:

I AGREE SISTER! I just read you post on the 'I am kissing dating goodbye' on Joshua's fb fan page and linked to your blog. You are beautiful and amazing and I agree 10x on your views. Stay strong and God Bless! I think the biggest fear people have is missing out on love if you don't date but that's when you gotta TRUST god and his plans..if you're following his path he'd never let you miss the guy for you.
Thursday, February 11th 2010 @ 11:04 AM

Posted by Yasutomo:

the view of the world on relationship might change age to age, but Biblical view on it never changes. I agree to your thoughts on dating. the word "Love" is misused today. They take it as emotional word, but it is something you commit to, you engage yourself and even that costs. I recommend you check out "O2 experience" by Levi Lusko http://www.youneedo2.com/2008/event_video.htm It should give you great insight!
Thursday, February 11th 2010 @ 9:04 PM

Posted by Alesia:

Yasutomo: Thank you! I will definitely check out that link!

Nikki: Yes, people often miss out in love, but by doing so, give their heart away WAY too many times, resulting in a less-then-perfect heart when you do find 'the one'.

In HIM
Alesia
Saturday, February 13th 2010 @ 4:04 PM

Posted by BookwormMN:

I totally agree!! Good posts!:)
Wednesday, February 24th 2010 @ 12:52 PM

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